Do you want to know what Jesus says about being a husband…

Do you want to know what Jesus says about being a husband…

Introduction:

1. In today’s society there is problems with morality, spirituality, roles, and respect for authority. The problems we are facing in America stem from the family. If we strengthen the family in these areas, then our society in due time will heal itself.

2. The roles of the family in America have been transparent as of the last few years and possibly decades. In this lesson I intend to try to define the role of the marriage for a Christian Husband… In this lesson I am going to speak on the role of the husband, father, or man. I am indebted to Leroy Brownlow and will be using his material for my foundation of this series and this lesson.

3. The roles of fathers and dad are extremely important in a family. The dads are the ones who God expects to be the authority, to love their wives and children, to take care of their families, and make the living. The husband is the man and is considered by God to be head of the household.

I. Head of the Household

A. Everything has a head or source

1. The body of any human has a head.

a. The head is the central part of the body.

b. The body cannot be sustained without the head nor the head without the body

c. The head is the authority in that it tells the rest what to do.

d. No institution can survive without a head: Can you imagine going to work and there be no one to work under. We would never get anything accomplished.

2. The head of America is the government

3. The head of the government is the president

4. The head of a school is the principal

5. Even the rivers and streams have a head or source

B. The Head of the Church

1. Jesus is the head of the church of Christ (1 Cor 11:3; Eph 1:22, 4:15, 5:23; Col 1:18, 2:10-19)

2. Jesus has the all authority concerning the Church. (Eph 1:22)

3. He has first place or the preeminence i.e. the highest rank (Col 1:18)

4. Through the head all the body is supplied and knit together (Col 2:19)

C. The Head of man

1. Christ is the head of man (1 Cor 11:3; Eph 5:23)

2. God is also the head of Christ (1 Cor 11:3)

D. The head of woman

1. The man is the head of the woman (Eph 5:23)

2. This is part of the punishment God gave the women due to the sin in the garden (Gen 3:16)

3. It was a threefold punishment: 1. The man was to have rule over her, 2. She was to have her husband as her desire, 3. To have pain in child birth

4. It should be said that the woman was not taken out of the man’s head to have authority over him, or taken from his feet that he may trample her under him, but from his side that they may rule together.

5. The problem occurs in a household when the two parties do not agree as to the end action or result. So the man has the final say so in the matters regarding the home.

6. The man is not a miser, or a tyrant but is like the president of the U.S.A. He has the final veto ability or the final say so.

II. Love the family

A. Love the wife

1. Love your wife as Christ loved you (Eph 5:25)

a. That is a tough call, what was there that Jesus was not willing to do for you and I?

b. Jesus did not seek to be the ruler over everybody, even though he was.

c. Jesus looked out for the best interest of those whom he was around.

d. Jesus was more concerned for people and their souls than he was there physical health.

e. Jesus put his neck out on the line for you and I, in other words he loved us so much that he was willing to be judged by hypocrites, to be called a sinner when he was not, to be mocked in a mocked trial, to suffer humiliation, to suffer a scourging, mocking of his true position and nature, to have nails driven in his hands and feet, he was crucified, and he bore our punishment for our sins.

f. In other words, Jesus loved us in every way and we also need to initiate, imitate, and involve ourselves in that kind of love in our relationships with our wives.

2. Love our wife and be not bitter towards them (Col 3:19)

a. Not to be bitter towards our wives is to say do not irritate them.

b. Immature people irritate others; as with a little brother that irritates his siblings.

c. Immature people try to provoke attention or love in the wrong ways, they try to tease or make their companion into doing their will.

d. Those who love their wives, when they ask something from their wives will receive it.

e. They receive it because of the love we as men have shown them our wives. This is similar to Jesus, “We love him because he first loved us” 1 John 4:19

f. If we provoke our wives into doing our will then they will indeed be bitter. The best way is to love them as yourself. I use this phrase in evangelism: “People do not care what you know until they see that you care”. The wife that never experiences selfless love from their husband will soon wonder why she ever married him.

3. Love the greatest gift (1 Cor 13:4-7)

a. It has been said that for love a man will do anything. In songs we hear of men that will swim the sea, climb the highest mountain; the idea is that if we love something nothing we can do is to great. The same can be said of the woman, that she also will do anything for love.

b. Love does not seek its own: Each party has to be seeking after love. A lot of times it is about compromise and not my way. We each give a little and we each take a little.

B. Love the children

1. Bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Eph 6:4)

a. Nurture – The training of a child, including instruction.

b. Admonition – A putting in mind. As in putting God’s instruction into their minds.

2. The training of a child

a. Example- Often times children will walk were their fathers or parents have walked

b. Putting to practice what we preach or teach. The phrase “if you talk the talk then you got to walk the walk” is of great significance when making the instruction real and practical to a child.

c. The phrase, “do what as I say and not as I do” will never work in enforcing a truth that you have taught or described to them. The children will do as you do.

d. Training involves more than just instruction but making practical application.

e. It involves more than just how to get to Heaven but is a whole and complete instruction that prepares the children for their adult lives. The object of parenting is to work yourself out of a job.

3. Provoke not the children unto anger lest they be discouraged (Col 3:21)

a. Dads are not to be people that hand out heavy burdens of work and toil.

b. Dads are not to load down the children with more than is necessary. A child is a child.

c. If our Christian dad makes our life miserable by causing unnecessary grief then any child will be discouraged from the faith. In other words the dad is not to ask something unreasonable from the children. He is the head of the house but he cannot ask something unreasonable from either the mom or the children.

d. Dads are most of the time how we picture God. If our dad was loving then we see God as loving, if our dad was a policeman then we see God as a policeman, and if our dad was always busy, then we see God as some important Being that is to busy to handle our mediocre problems here on earth.

e. We are to encourage the children; we are the closest person they will see to God until they get old enough to read and understand, or until they get to Heaven.

III. Making the living

A. We need to provide for our own (1 Tim 5:8)

1. Who is our own?

a. Those who would be considered under our care.

b. Relatives that depend on us for health, food, and any other support.

c. In most cases, it would involve those who are living under your roof or in your household.

d. In some cases, our widow relatives, would need our assistance and care. Because of this necessity and our relationship to them this responsibility would be ours to fulfill.

2. What kind of provisions should be provided?

a. Certainly the necessities of life (food, water, clothes, etc)

b. Foresight or thinking ahead: We know that if our wife is pregnant then we will have two mouths to feed or if our moms are getting feeble they will need extra attention. So we can plan ahead to meet those upcoming needs. “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”

c. God thinks ahead for us, he knows that the population of the world is going to be and provides us with animals, plants, and water for everyone to have. He also sees the needs of our upcoming spiritual struggles and can prepare us for those battles.

d. All provisions should be relevant and needed.

B. Neglect is denial of the Christian religion

1. Denied the faith

a. The person who through neglect by way of drunkenness, laziness, drugs, fails to provide for those in his family is in a serious boat headed for a waterfall of destruction.

b. Peter denied the faith in a verbal way

c. The Christian can deny the faith by neglecting to fulfill his roles in life.

d. “Faith without works is dead” James 2:17

e. We may go to church and be active in looking religious but if we are not providing for our own families we are denying the faith of Jesus Christ

2. Worst than an infidel

a. An infidel is a person who does not believe in Jesus.

b. Most people who are not believers in God practice the principles of providing for their own.

c. The Christian is called to higher way of life so that he is to exceed the virtues of those who have no faith at all.

Conclusion:

1. The man is not better than the woman or the children. The man is given a responsibility to God to fulfill. Each person in a family have certain roles to fulfill for it to function in the way God planned and ordained. The woman has her role to fill; the children have their roles to fill, and the man his.

2. The man is to be the head of the household. A job that has no boss will become a place of neglect; a government that has not authority will not last. God’s plan involves a person of authority in all things. In the family that authority is indeed the man.

3. The man is to love his wife and his children. The man is not to be a tyrant barking out orders to be obeyed but is to lovingly lead the family into a closer relationship with God. A wife and children will do anything within reason when they know the man of the house is asking them to do something.

4. The man is to provide for his own kindred. He is to be the one who is responsible to take care of those placed in or under his care. This would involve widows, children, moms, dads, wives, etc. Those to whom he considers his own.

5. The man is not to ask anything unreasonable of his wife or his children. He is to respect them, he is to love them as Jesus loves us, and Jesus was willing to give His life for all. The ideal relationship between a husband and wife should imitate or reflect the relationship of Jesus and His church. It is a relationship of love, unity, closeness, and oneness.

Father help us to be faithful to the role we have been called into so we can know the truth when revealed and do right by You…In Jesus of Nazareth’s name amen.

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Wives…are you a help meet to your husband or a help eat you out of house and home…

Wives…are you a help meet to your husband or a help eat you out of house and home…

Intro:

1.      This lesson I will be talking on the roles of a wife in marriage. However, the Bible does speak on this subject. I will venture to try to speak where the Bible speaks and be silent where the Bible is silent.

2.      In the center of the moral fabric today is the family. There is no greater institution other than the church that has been created by God. The institution of marriage had been around since the sixth day of creation and will continue to be around until the Lord comes.

3.      There cannot be a marriage without a wife. Marriage is between male and female. The wife was created to be with man. God seen that Adam was lonely and made him a helpmeet. In today’s lesson I will talk of the roles of: 1 being a helper to man. 2 being submissive to her husband. 3 Her ability to bear children. 4. Keep the home

I.                    Helper of man

A.    The woman is the suitable and co-worker with man

1.      In Gen 2:18-24, God seen it was not good for man to be alone and created a help met for him.

a.       He did not make her as he did the animals, fish, or birds out of the ground.

b.      He did something today science is just know beginning to understand, he genetically engineered the woman from man.

c.       He put Adam into a deep sleep, (Anastasia). Took the rib (surgery). Made woman from it (took Adam’s genes and altered them to form woman)

d.      Then God brought her to Adam

e.       Adam pronounced a prophecy that man would cleave to his wife.

2.      God has equipped the woman to serve as the comrade of man

a.       If it were not for the wife man would have no beauty, charm, or social graces.

b.      When the woman is helping her man, then she finds within this sphere her greatest usefulness, beauty, and charm.

c.       It has been said, “that God did not take Eve from Adam’s head so she could rule over him, nor did He take her from his feet that He may trample upon her. God took the woman from his side that she might be his companion and helper throughout life.”

B.     God Knew what was in man

1.      God did not realize after he made man that he was lonely. He knew he would be and had already decided what he would do.

2.      He made man to be a social creature.

a.       Man is empty inside unless he is in communion with God

b.      God knowing that this new social creature needed someone to talk to and share his burdens with, created woman to be his lifelong companion.

c.       It is the martial relationship that the woman and her abilities complement the man and his. Her intelligence, ability, warmth, help, and love keep the man happy.

II.                 The wife is commanded to be submissive

A.    God’s command

1.      Eph 5:22 “wives be in subjection unto your own husbands as into the Lord”

2.      Sarah, Abraham’s wife was an example: “For after this manner aforetime the holy women also, who hoped in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection to their husbands: as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord whose children you now are, if you do well and are not put in fear by any terror” 1 Peter 3:5-6

3.      God has decided to make man at the head of the woman and Christ at the head of man.

B.     The Woman is not inferior

1.      Because God has made man the head of the woman does not mean she has inferior intellect.

2.      God is God and we are not. We must do what He says in order to please Jesus.

3.      It is best for this to be this way due to the fact that a woman with her femine and tender qualities is not as endowed for rulership as a man is.

C.     Christianity is designed to elevate the wife

1.      In the 1st century, the women were considered like possessions. Even in some countries and cultures the woman is considered lower than cows, or farm animals. As in they would trade their daughters for horses, cattle, or another type of animal

2.      In Christianity, it is found to elevate the woman above that of a possession to an equal to man.

a.       Even thought they may be equal each has to play his or her role in order to please God

b.      Man, by the fact that he was first created; that the woman was taken from him; that he is better qualified for ruling than she is, is evidently designed to be at the head of the little community that constitutes a family.- Albert Barnes

c.       In many other things, woman may be his equal; in loveliness, and grace, and beauty, and tenderness, and gentleness, she is far his superior; but these are not the qualities adapted for government.- Albert Barnes

III.               Bear Children

A.     God ordained that the woman would be the mother of the family.

1.       When Eve was created Adam called her, “Eve because she was the mother of all living” Gen 3:15

2.      Paul said. “I desire that therefore younger woman marry bear children rule the household, give no occasion to the adversary for reviling” 1 Tim 5: 14.

3.      Paul again says, “but she shall be saved through her child bearing, if they continue in faith and love and sanctification and sobriety” 1 Tim 2:15

B.      The greatness of motherhood

1.       Having children does not make a mother

a.       There are many women who have children who are being raised by real mothers.

b.      The women that disown there children are not the moms of children, it is the women who nurture, provide, sacrifice, and love are the true mother even though they may not be the one who birthed you.

2.       The woman who chooses to become a wife and mother should be considered worthy.

a.       Motherhood may not have the glory that some other careers have but it is an honored profession. It takes a real woman to stay and raise children. Instead of giving that responsibility to someone else to do.

b.      This is the greatest profession of all being a wife and a mother

3.       Famous quotes on mothers:

a.       “All that I am, or can be, I owe to my angel mother” Abraham Lincoln.

b.      “The mother’s heart is the child schoolroom” Henry Ward Beecher

c.       “The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world” John Gray

d.      “Youth fades, love droops, the leaves of friendship fall, a mother’s secret love outlives them all” Oliver Wendell Holmes

e.       “The bravest battle that ever was fought

Shall I tell you where and when?

On the maps of the world you will find it not

It was fought by the mothers of men

4.       Women have a great influence over man as he grows up, as he matures, and as his wife.

IV.               Keep The Home

A.     Domestic Duties of the Wife

1.       The older women are to train the younger.

a.       Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. (Tit 2:3-5)

2.       The woman and her femine qualities have equipped her for homemaking

a.       The touch of a mother’s hand gives strength even to those that are dying

b.       The touch of a woman’s hand heals man and his wounds

c.       The touch of a woman’s hand can transform rickety shack into a palace. It takes more than nails, wood, brick and mortar to make a home. A home is held together by love.

d.       The wife creates an atmosphere of love, happiness, friendliness, cheerfulness, and cooperation.

B.      Solomon and his description of a excellent wife (Proverbs 31)

1.       Worthy of her husband’s trust (11)

2.       Loyal to her husband (12)

a.       She is loyal in such a way that she will see to it that there is always enough

b.       She seeks to do him good all the days of her life

c.       She does not provoke him to kill himself to make enough money so she can spend it all.

3.       Industrious rather than indolent. Busy instead of lazy. (13-19)

a.       She takes what she has and increases the riches of the household

b.       She takes the wool from her own flock and makes garments

c.       She takes flax from her won fields and makes linen

4.       Takes care of the domestic needs of the family (15, 21)

a. She is an economist of time. Using wisely time so that she can be of use to her family and husband.

5.       Is Charitable (20)

a.       She knows that you reap what you sow. If you have increase in material wealth then give some back and God repays what you give to the poor.

6.       Adorns herself properly (22)

a.       Does not wear clothes that will draw men attention.

b.       Wears clothes that are respectable and not trashy

c.       Knows her true beauty is inside and not in clothes

7.       Adds respectability to her husband (23)

a.       She does not cause him to hang his head in shame due to her dress or actions

b.       The husband is pleased to have her by his side anywhere they go

8.       Economical rather than extravagant (24, 16)

a.       She does not waste time or money on things that are worthless or unprofitable

9.       Dress up the inward man (25)

a.       She knows that circumstances can destroy a house and is stronger than the temporal circumstances of the affliction that they will endure

b.       She prepares for the future laughing at circumstances she has prepared for.

10.   Opens her mouth with wisdom (26)

a.       She has not neglected her mental faculties and is able to share her intellect with her family and possibly others.

11.   The law of kindness is on her tongue (26)

a.       She knows how to be sweet in speech and uplift the down trodden.

b.       Her husband comes home all beat up from the toils of the day and she begins to speak and his worries fade away and takes comfort in his wonderfully faithful wife.

c.       She does not spend time slandering others

12.   Takes care of all that behave themselves well (27)

a.       Adam Clarke says, “She is a moral manager: she takes care that all shall behave themselves well; that none of them shall keep bad company or contract vicious habits.”

b.       She can instruct them in religion, as well as she can teach them in their labor. In her house, diligence in business, and fervency of spirit, serving the Lord, go hand in hand.

13.   Buy rather than idle (27)

a.       She is one who knows the value of work

b.       Idleness is a way to get vices, after all an idle mind is the devil’s workshop

14.   Has the resect and gratitude of her children and husband (28-29)

a.       Her moral character is not that of hypocrisy but the people that see her day in and out respect her for devout sense of piety or faithfulness to Jesus.

b.       Due to her lack of slothfulness she is praised in gratitude by her children and her husband.

15.   Fears Jehovah (30)

a.       Due to her reverence for God she does all these things

b.       She does them for the respect of God and the role He has designed her to play

16.   Her works praise her (31)

a.       The works of her hands tell the story of her character

b.       She leaves a memorial behind in her children and husband’s character for all to praise.

Conclusion:

1.       The woman and her roles are extremely important and worthy in any man’s eye. The woman is able to have her husband full and complete trust is a woman that is worthy. The woman is a helper to man and the man a helper of woman. It is a relationship of give and take.

2.       The woman is to be submissive to her husband, but the husband is not to ask anything unreasonable or unscriptural from her. Her first loyalty is to God then to her husband. She after all is the neck that turns the head.

3.       Without women there would be no man. The woman is the mother of all living. She is the one who bears the children and nourishes and provides for their needs. The woman has a great influence on the development of a child as he grows up into maturity

4.      The woman is a keeper of the home. She is the one who looks after the children and her husband. The virtuous woman is able to provide a better way of life for he children, husband, and future. She is trustworthy in all things that pertain to the household. She is the delight of her husband and her children and they are thankful to God for such a woman as she is. Her character is so pure that it rubs off on her husband and her children and helps them become more godly.

Father help us to be faithful with the roles You have planned and purposed in us for You and Your Son Jesus and please meet our soul’s deepest needs heal our soul’s deepest wounds and may we prosper and be in health as our soul prospers in Jesus of Nazareth’s name amen.

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Do you have any white robes…

Do you have any white robes…

Rev 7:13-17 AFV And one of the elders answered and said to me, these who are clothed with white robes, who are they, and where did they come from? 14 Then I said to him, Sir, you know. And he said to me, they are the ones who have come out of the great tribulation; and they have washed their robes, and have made their robes white in the blood of the Lamb. 15 For this reason, they are before the throne of God and serve Him day and night in His temple; and the One Who sits on the throne shall dwell among them. 16 They shall not hunger any more, nor shall they thirst anymore; neither shall the sun nor the heat fall upon them, 17 Because the Lamb Who is in the midst of the throne will shepherd them, and will lead them to fountains of living waters; and God will wipe away every tear from their eyes…

Mat 22:11-14 AFV And when the King came in to see the guests, He noticed a man there who was not dressed in proper attire for the wedding feast; 12 And He said to him, Friend, how did you enter here without a garment fit for the wedding feast? But he had no answer. 13 Then the King said to the servants, 'Bind his hands and feet, and take him away, and cast him into the outer darkness. There shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth. 14 For many are called, but few chosen…

Rev 19:8-10 AFV And it was granted to her that she should be clothed in fine linen, pure and bright; for the fine linen is the righteousness of the saints. 9 And he said to me, Write: Blessed are those who are called to the marriage supper of the Lamb. And he said to me, These are the true words of God. 10 And I fell at his feet to worship him. Then he said to me, See that you do not do this! I am a fellow servant of yours, and of your brethren, who have the testimony of Jesus. Worship God. For the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy…

Rev 22:17 AFV And the Spirit and the bride say, Come. And let the one who hears say, Come. And let the one who thirsts come; and let the one who desires partake of the water of life freely…As it is written when Jesus was here on earth…stood and called out, saying, If anyone thirsts, let him come to Me and drink. Joh 7:37 AFV

We have to keep ourselves faithful by staying worthy of the cleansing blood Jesus shed for the punishment of sin…We do His will…which results in righteous deeds…these righteous acts of the Saints is what we will be clothed in Heaven…

Father please have mercy and forgiven the unforgiven and please grant us repentance to the acknowledging of the Truth in Jesus of Nazareth’s name amen.

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